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Tip #1 for reconciliation in marriage:
Be humble.Be humble.
It's good to remember you've both made mistakes.
Everyone needs a second (or a tenth, or twentieth) chance.
We've all needed to ask forgiveness.
And give forgiveness.
A married couple not getting along. #marriagerestoration
We've been told love will conquer all.
But some of life's stuff can mess up our best intentions.

We had to admit we'd both failed.
A rift had grown between us like a gaping, impassable chasm.
We were both hurting.
Couple arguing
The temptation was to forget the promises.
The vows of ‘til death do us part.
To look for an easy way out.
(Not that divorce or a separation are easy. But when you're in the crisis, you forget that.)
It was tempting to think it was all his fault.
Or hers.
Our hearts were broken.
The choice was there.
Leave? Or stay?
And if he stayed, what then?
Broken heart
It's easy to see the other person's faults and flaws.
To cast blame.
He's the one who...
She's the one who hasn't...

To let those things become the sole focus.
To concentrate on hurt, bitterness, and the unfairness.
Until there's nothing else left.
Marital struggles #marriagerestoration
We all get lonely.


Jealous or short-tempered.
Too busy.
A feeling of loss can overtake us.
It wasn't supposed to be like this.
We don't know what to do.
Or who to talk to.
Sad wife
But for things to get better, one person has to be willing to take the first step and be humble.
To be willing to say, "I'm sorry," or "Let's try again," or "I love you. I never meant to hurt you."
Sometimes in a marriage storm, one person has wronged the other.
Hurts are great.
The person who has done the wrong needs to be humble.
To open the dialogue.
And to explain with a heart of caring.

Other times, both have said or done things they need to express remorse over.

Being humble is an attitude.
It's the opposite of pride.
It's saying, we are both broken.
I failed. I did, or said, or thought things that hurt you.
I'm so sorry.

Be humble
Being humble can be painful.
It's opening the door on our problems, or wounds, or sin.
But it's a brave thing to do.
It's a spouse saying, "We are worth whatever it takes to face our problem. To weather our storm. To fix the brokenness."
It's making a decision.
Recognizing we are in this marriage together.
It's taking a giant step toward healing.
And love.
Being humble can hurt. But it's brave.
When we came to the point where we could have split up, we made a decision.
Instead of separating, we were going to cling.
Him and me.
'Til death do us part.
Not just for the kids.
For us.

It was awkward at first.
With painful conversations.
Gut-wrenching honesty.
It took intentionality.
And spending time together like we hadn't in a long time.

It took both of us being humble.
And vulnerable.

Note: I'm not a counselor.  I'm just a girl with a mended heart who's weathered a few of life's storms.

mended hearts
Mary E Hanks
Mary Hanks Author and Playwright
author & playwright

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